Introducing the new research-based, mobile-friendly, Behavior Checker™ website from the authors of Discipline with Love & Limits and the Raised with Love and Limits Foundation™, designed to supplement the detailed Behavior Checker prescriptions provided by participating pediatricians and pediatric nurses.

This digital tool offers a brief summary of the proven, positive and trusted answers to the most common childhood behavior questions recommended by participating pediatricians.  Problem solved! Happy parent! Healthy child!

For more information, please contact your pediatrician.

“Behavior Checker” and “Parenting is Healthcare” are trademarks of The Raised with Love and Limits Foundation, which also owns all rights to the Behavior Checker program.

Please select a category to jump to the section below or scroll through the list to find the behavior you need assistance with.

Social Behaviors | Sleeping, Eating, Cleanup | Noise | Independence | Activity


SOCIAL BEHAVIORS

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    August 8, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they are angry and frustrated to seek control and power: threaten, hit, bite, scratch, pinch, tease, call names, insult, slap, push, put down, humiliate, shame, bully, fight.
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    August 8, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they interrupt in order to get attention.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they purposely destroy toys, furniture, knick-knacks, dishes, windows; draws on walls and furniture.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that exhibit a high level of activity, impulsivity, leaves seat frequently, runs or climbs excessively, can’t engage in quiet play, “driven by a motor”, talks excessively, blurts out answers, can’t wait turn, interrupts or intrudes, inattention, difficulty sustaining attention, doesn’t listen, doesn’t follow through on tasks, difficulty organizing, avoids tasks requiring sustained mental effort, loses things needed for tasks, easily distracted, forgetful in daily activities.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they are feeling envy, anger, resentment, spite, hate, and malice toward another because of perceived loss (of prestige, attention, title, etc.)
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children exhibit that put them at risk, such talking to strangers. Managing children’s behavioral issues cannot be done with one-click or one teaching time! Get more information by clicking links below. For the whole story, read the Discipline with Love and Limits chapter, Stranger Safety on […]
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they avoid the truth, even when confronted; making up stories; telling of events that aren’t true; not being truthful about behavior; denying behavior, even when confronted.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they are overly timid or nervous when greeted by adults, not wanting to join in play, go places or participate in activities in groups when other children or adults will be, such as the library, park or concert. Also, freezing up, not talking, hiding behind adults, running away from people, refusing to go places (school, friends’ houses, etc.) or do things where other people will be present
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they are being jealous or resentful of siblings as two or more children vie for parents’ attention, the same toy, same seat in the car, same purchases and privileges. Trying to get power and control in the family by tattling; blaming; belittling; verbally abusing; fighting; hitting; calling names; and not sharing.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when take and keep another person’s possessions (toys, clothing, books, etc.) without asking for permission to do so and without intending to return it.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they are impatient: wanting things immediately, not able to wait.
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    September 6, 2016
    These are behaviors that children use when they won’t hurry or won’t follow directions on your timetable, include dawdling, spending time idly, moving lackadaisically, delaying, loitering
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that children exhibit because they don’t have the ability to take turns, share or tolerate frustration of waiting for a toy or another possession; saying, “Mine!”(generally, under age 3); getting upset about waiting his turn when someone has a toy or something else he wants to have or do—not able to let go of possessions

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Sleeping, Eating, Cleanup

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    September 1, 2016
    These are the behaviors that lead to an unhealthy weight gain with the child’s focus almost constantly on food; consuming more calories daily than needed because of wanting to eat almost all the time, eating too fast, eating everything and asking for more at each meal.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are the behaviors that occur when food becomes something other than nourishment, such as throwing it on the floor, playing with it, using it as a toy, paint or weapon. Managing children’s behavioral issues cannot be done with one-click or one teaching time! Get more information by clicking links […]
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    September 1, 2016
    These behaviors are about getting upset by complaining about and/or cheating on dietary restrictions based on health and/or religion—peanuts, pork, meat, dairy, gluten, for example.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are the behaviors occurring when fighting against going to bed, such as wriggling, crying, refusing to go to bed, leaving bed after being put there.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are the messy behaviors that make parents crazy, such as clothes, food, toys and other items in places that they don’t belong, not cleaning up after eating, playing or bathing, not putting away toys, clothes, or other items after using them.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are the behaviors that occur from not wanting to eat, crying during meals, pushing food away
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    September 1, 2016
    These behaviors include frequent wetting or soiling of pants; hiding to wet or have a bowel movement.
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    September 1, 2016
    These are behaviors that make parents crazy when they bathe and diaper their little ones: Fighting against diaper change or clean-up routine by wriggling, crying, running, hiding refusing to be “cleaned up”.
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    September 1, 2016
    These behaviors include repeatedly getting out of bed after the bedtime routine or asking for more drinks, stories, hugs, reassurances, appearing in parent’s room, bed, or playing in child’s room after being put to bed.

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Noise

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Independence

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Activity

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    September 1, 2016
    These behaviors include climbing on non-play equipment, such as on furniture, in trees, in windows, on cars, walls, fountains, etc.
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    September 1, 2016
    These behaviors include watching or wanting to watch TV all the time; demanding time on a cell phone, computer, tablet, video game console; overly emotional when screen time is restricted or the screen is turned off.

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